- I may want a promotion at work, but I may not be ready for it.
- At one point in my early 20's I wanted a nice house in S. Minneapolis to call my own, but I was definitely not ready for it.
- Most days I am ready to go for a run, but I often don't want to go.
- I may be ready to start attending Shabbat services at Temple Israel, but I don't want to start (this item is a whole OTHER blog post!)
- The lawn is ready to be mowed, but I don't want to mow it.
My point today is that I understand that I will never be ready to have kids, but that doesn't mean that I want them. I struggle quite a bit with my feelings towards having or not having kids.
I have very well meaning friends that assure me that there will never be a perfect time to make that leap. I know that the timing will never be perfect. They also tell me that it will be "different" when the kids are my own. The problem with that kind of encouragement is that I actually like kids. I like babies, toddlers, pre-teens... sometimes I even like the moody teenagers!
Hot Hubby and I talk about having kids (or not) a lot. The issue we have isn't whether or not we are ready for kids. The issue is whether or not we want kids.
I love your honesty on this subject. As you know, I support you no matter what it is that you want :)
ReplyDeleteI'm going to disown you if you don't have kids.
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Be happy.
Like your beautiful sister I completely love your honesty about this. It is so true that you are never ready to have kids. Beyond that there are so many people who decide they want kids, for the wrong reasons. No one who has kids will lie to you... they are work, everyday. I struggle with trying to be the best mom that I can be... AND ... teaching my kids that I am a person too and taking time for me. It is a balancing act that if you WANT it for all the right reasons... is so completely worth all the times you WILL loose your balance. You are smart and pretty...and if you want to be...you will be a smokin hot mommy too! <3 ya!
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